Pam was born in Egham, England, the daughter of Frank H. White and Mabel Bosher.  She attended boarding schools until age 18, when she went to work as a clerk for the Bank of England. During the Second World War, she worked as an x-ray technician in London. 

She married Clark Beckett, a physicist, in 1948 and they immigrated to Rochester, New York in 1950. They divorced in 1967. She then married Everett Hafner, (also) a physicist, and moved to Amherst, Massachusetts in 1968. 

She worked for Danco, a Scandanavian Furniture store, in Northampton, and then for Scandanavian Design in Cambridge. She lived for 15 years in Belchertown. Most recently she was a resident of Loomis Village, a retirement community, in South Hadley. 

Pam loved to travel and to garden. She also enjoyed art, opera, the theater, and swimming, an activity she continued well into her 80’s. She was devoted to her companion animals, who gave her great joy in the final years of her life. 

She is survived by her children Julie Crutcher (Dan) of Louisville, KY, Jason Beckett (Paula) of Plano, TX and Christopher Beckett of Granby, CT, as well as her step-daughters, R. Clare Layton (Steve) of San Antonio, TX and Katie Hafner (Bob Wachter) of San Francisco, Ca. She has 5 grandchildren and 4 stepgrandchildren. 

The family would like to thank the staff at the Center for Extended Care in Amherst, Loomis Village and her companion and caretaker Deborah Beckett. 

Following a private ceremony, her remains will be interred at Wildwood Cemetery in Amherst. 

In lieu of flowers, donations in her name can be made to Dakin Pioneer Valley Humane Society, PO Box 6307, Springfield, MA 01101-6307. Obituary and memorial register at www.douglassfuneral.com

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